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post Sep 1 2006, 11:05 AM
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We often mistake love as generally just being romantic and never really appreciating the other kinds of love that do exist.

SECURITY LOVE:
This love is the love that everybody needs to survive. It is that feeling of being cared for and nurtured. Some people would describe this as the type of love parents have for their children. This is so important: high on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs; and studies have even proven that people have died of a "broken heart" (there have been no explanations for their deaths other than that).

FRIENDSHIP LOVE:
This is a love between yourself and someone that is totally honest, open and comfortable. You really only have this kind of bond with a few people. You might know a lot of people and be "friendly" with them in a group situation but they are not the best friends I am talking about here.
I have a theory that you can not truely be best friends with a member of the opposite sex. Down the line romance will always come up from either party and feelings will be misinterpreted and mistaken. When this happens, the friendship will change and possibly never be the same again.

ROMANTIC LOVE:
(The much anticipated love!) Most people experience this type of love many times in their life. It is when you see that person for the first time and he/she makes your knees go weak or gives you butterflies in your stomach.i.e. "Love at first sight”. Most people don’t even love the person they think they are in love with…they fall in love with the idea if being in love. This is more of a lustful kind of love, it wears off after a while and hopefully leads to...

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE:
This is the sincere love, the love that lasts forever. This kind of love comes when you have found the person you are destined to be with. Nothing can destroy unconditional love. It is like when you have an argument or disagree about something with that person and you realize that it doesn’t bother you because the love you have for him/her overcomes everything.
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post Sep 1 2006, 11:31 AM
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I heared similar types of love that can derived from the bible. Am just wondering if they're the same with what you wrote.
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post Sep 1 2006, 01:46 PM
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QUOTE(Chatz @ Sep 1 2006, 07:05 PM) *
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE:
This is the sincere love, the love that lasts forever. This kind of love comes when you have found the person you are destined to be with. Nothing can destroy unconditional love. It is like when you have an argument or disagree about something with that person and you realize that it doesn’t bother you because the love you have for him/her overcomes everything.


Not exactly. Do not assume that love is meant to be reciprocated. Also falling under the category of unconditional love is love that is given but not returned. It may or may not last forever. It may or may not be destroyed. In the event that unreturned love ages, it is more likely that this kind of love will evolve or devolve into one of the other types you mentioned.

Oh, we do have a term for "friendship love", it's called fraternal love. Not to be confused with love between actual siblings, fraternal love is, metaphorically speaking, "brotherly love" or "great solidarity".
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post Sep 1 2006, 02:50 PM
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I have a theory that you can not truely be best friends with a member of the opposite sex. Down the line romance will always come up from either party and feelings will be misinterpreted and mistaken.


I don't think this is necessarly true. I am a male and the only people I am totally comfortable talking with, totally honest with, and almost totally open (everyone has some stuff they keep to themselves) is my female friend Sam. She is the bestest friend anyone could ask for, and she is the exact same way with me.
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post Sep 1 2006, 11:14 PM
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I must agree with ghostrider. Two of my best friends are guys, and one of them I have not attraction towards in that way at all. Sure, he's good looking I'll admit, but he's not the type of guy I could fall for like that. He's a really cool guy, and is someone I enjoy being around, but I don't see him in that way and probably won't. I've thought about what it would be like, and we just wouldn't be compatable enough for a working dating relationship. He's my best friend, and that's all he'll be. His type of girls are completely different from me. We've even disgussed this topic before! You can be best friends with someone of the opposite sex and not have those feelings for them, and my mother is a case of which they won't even get together at all somewhere down the line. She had this guy friend, and she never was anything more than best friends with him. The two of them and my father were always hanging out together, and then when he got married, it was the four of them. It's completely possible.
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post Sep 2 2006, 12:39 AM
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The theory is right.
I mean, it's makes sense enough.

Although, it seems way too limitted to list only 4 different types of love and expect everything to fit unconditionally into one of those four categories.
It's only logical to assume that there are going to be exceptions to every single statement you made.
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post Sep 4 2006, 01:00 AM
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I think the whole love into 4 different types is alittle to out there. I mean, Love is love, you either have the bond between two people, or you don't.

Also people use the word out of context, someone may say i love you, but not mean it excatly, but know what it means. However, people can say it and mean it in the best of ways and live for the rest of thier lives.
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post Oct 3 2007, 07:51 PM
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I also put love into 2 catagories, now this is like immunity-acquired and natural-the love we have for family is natural, well in the majority of cases it is, their will always be exceptions. the other kind-acquired, the love that we have for friends and partners, it is not naturally there but we aacquire it as we get to know them....thats my take on it anyway

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post Dec 27 2007, 09:05 PM
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Trying to define
4 Different Types Of Love

Love is a lot more than a few stages.
Love is what keeps you from giving up, it is what pulls you through the worst, greets you at the opening and puts you to sleep at the end. There are things such as being in love with the IDEA with being in love, but that is not love itself, that is a fantasy.
It can be an act, insult, compliment, a way of doing something...
It is simply a devotion to someone or something with many ways of expression and attitude. I think.

-Hannah